self-love language

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Get ready for a love affair with the most important person in your life – you!

When was the last time you loved yourself?

Don’t remember?

Bae, loving yourself should be your topmost priority all the time. If you can’t love yourself, then how would you expect others to love you? But to pamper yourself with love and care, it is important to understand your love language.

Self-love language can take multiple forms- sleeping in, solo dates, buying gifts for oneself, pampering yourself with your favorite spa therapy, and so on. So, understand and acknowledge your love language, and fall in love with yourself completely.

What is self-love Language?

Self-Love Language

The way you pamper yourself, shower yourself with love and care, and pull yourself out of all the messy situations while maintaining your calm is called self-love language. This love language can differ from person to person.

Wanna know what’s your love language? Your girl has got your back!

5 Types of Self-Love Language to Love Yourself to the Core!

1. Taking out Quality time for yourself

Self-Love Language

Spending quality time with ourselves is the best form of self-love.  We often tend to feel lonely and seek company to feel good. 

However, falling in love with your own company and enjoying solitude can be highly therapeutic. You deserve your own undivided attention, girl. Be with yourself and let your mind and soul know that you are there.

2. Speaking words of affirmation

Self-Love Language

Positive affirmations work magically when it comes to expressing love to yourself. These self-praising, uplifting, and positive words keep you boosted and motivated. 

You need to repeat these words multiple times a day, all the while believing each one of them with all your heart. Over time, these affirmations wire your brain and get etched onto your subconscious mind and attract such realities for you.

3. Actually, Physically touching yourself

Self-Love Language

Physical touch is one of the highest forms of love, which not only gives you physical pleasure but also warms up your heart from within.

Caress your mind and body with your own physical touch to convey self-love, how ’bout a quick head massage or a full body massage? The thought itself feels so relaxing, isn’t it?

Taking care of your body through hugs, massages, or even a warm bath can help release stress and provide a sense of comfort and security.

4. Pampering yourself with gifts

Self-Love Language

Gifts give an instant dopamine boost. It uplifts your mood in no time. But why wait for a special occasion to receive gifts? Or why wait for someone to shower you with gifts?

Bae, just spoil yourself with gifts that you buy for yourself! Go out and take that retail therapy!

Get yourself a bouquet of fresh flowers. Buy that dress you have been crushing on for so long. Donate your old accessories, make room for new ones, buy your favorite author’s new book, or enjoy a cup of your favorite tea, will help cultivate healthy relationship with yourself!

5. Doing Acts of service

Self-Love Language

This includes anything and everything that you love to do for yourself. Apart from work and daily life, these actions bring solace to your exhausted mind. 

Be it pursuing any hobby, doing anything as simple as oiling your hair, or cooking yourself a meal- these actions heal you from within, rejuvenate your mind, and fill your soul with love.

Mindset Shift Necessary for Indulging in Self-Love

1. Stop being so hard on yourself!

Cut yourself some slack, girl! Stop pushing yourself so hard. You are not responsible for every wrong happening around you!

Know that it is okay to make mistakes. So, take a pill chill! For added relief, you can unburden your heart by talking to a close person.

Or you can try talking to yourself in the third person. I have been doing this ever since my teenage days. And trust me, it works like magic. Your mind calms down instantly, and you get to detach yourself from the negativity going on in your mind.

2. being a people-pleaser

Self-Love Language

No, bub, you cannot make everyone happy. No matter how hard you work or how genuinely you put in the effort, yet, there will be someone holding grudges against you.

The key is to understand that it is your life and that you are not on a mission to please everyone.

Rather, focus on your happiness. Spend your precious time on yourself rather than trying to please some ungrateful, forever grumpy souls!

3. Set a healthy boundary.

I cannot emphasize enough the importance of setting a healthy boundary to maintain your sanity and peace of mind! You must learn to say NO when people urge you to do something that you are not willing to do at all.

Be it your family, friends, team members, neighbors, or acquaintances, you need to be clear about your preferences. When saying NO, be polite but firm with your tone.

4. Hype yourself up like there’s no tomorrow.

You have to be your own biggest cheerleader. Only you can support and hype yourself up unconditionally, no matter what.

Try complimenting yourself more enough! Do not wait for your knight in shining armor to compliment you and make you feel good.

Treat yourself to your favorite snacks, a book you have wanted to read for so long, or maybe that gadget you have been eyeing after accomplishing certain goals. 

Another cool hack I try to keep me boosted on my low days is to listen to electrifying music. This never fails to pump me up!

5. Don’t feel guilty about taking breaks.

Self-Love Language

If you are someone who always puts their comfort on the back burner, then take this as a wake-up call! Take frequent breaks to prevent instances of burnout. Even a machine needs time to recharge!

Try the Pomodoro technique, where you work for 25 minutes with complete dedication and then take a 5-minute break. Or, you can try deep work of about 4 hours and then take 1 1-hour long break.

Apart from daily breaks, take week-long breaks after every 3 to 4 months or so. Give your mind and brain the time to unwind and relax!

6. Start believing in magic once again!

Remember how beautiful our life was in our childhood when we all used to believe in magic? Our entire world existed on the philosophy of “What ifs!”

Our dreams and beliefs came crashing down as we grew up. It is high time to start believing in the magic of the Universe once again! Awaken your inner child, and experience how magical your life turns out to be!

30 Innovative Ideas to Implement Your Self-Love Language!

Self-Love Language
  1. Get 8 to 9 hours of peaceful, sound sleep every day.
  2. Plan a solo trip and explore uncharted places all alone.
  3. Say no to overwork.
  4. Enjoy nice coffee in an aesthetic cafe.
  5. Sip in your favorite wine while enjoying the moonlit view from your terrace.
  6. Soak in the warm sunshine on winter afternoons.
  7. Start taking therapy.
  8. Spend some time alone with yourself every day.
  9. Enjoy the beauty of nature by going on a trek/hike.
  10. Get yourself a pretty journal and start journaling.
  11. Write motivating notes for yourself on sticky notes.
  12. Write down self-love affirmations 10 times daily night before hitting the bed.
  13. Set affirmation reminders on your phone.
  14. Start with skincare rituals- one for the morning hours and one for the nighttime. And enjoy an elaborate skincare routine once a week.
  15. Book a lavish spa session and enjoy a full body massage.
Self-Love Language
  1. Exfoliate and scrub your body once every fortnight.
  2. Practice gentle stretching, yoga postures, aerobic exercises, or zumba.
  3. Go for a manicure-pedicure session.
  4. Try writing a note to your future self and then hide it.
  5. Get enrolled in your favorite hobby classes such as painting, cooking, violin, etc.
  6. Buy yourself plants if you are a greenery enthusiast.
  7. Get yourself aromatic candles to heighten up your mood.
  8. Enjoy DIYing your home interiors.
  9. Spoil yourself with retail therapy.
  10. Buy yourself gifts on special days as well as on a mundane weekday.
  11. Tick things off your bucket list.
  12. Declutter your room, wardrobe, and workspace.
  13. Book that appointment with your hairstylist you have been putting off for so long.
  14. Go on a solo date night and enjoy shopping, dinner, and movies.

A Quick Quiz to Find Out How to Embrace Self-Love!

Q1. You ended up in an argument with your colleague. You will get home and:

  1. Change into your comfy clothes.
  2. Go straight to the shower.
  3. Call out your bestie and vent out.

Q2. You have been working hard on your dream business. You badly need a break. You will:

  1. Plan a solo trip to your dream destination.
  2. Take a month-long break and stay at home to catch up on sleep and rest.
  3. You decide to delegate your work and take a day off to bounce back soon.

Q3. You just bagged your dream job after getting rejected straight 24 times. You will:

  1. Pamper yourself with a lavish dine-out.
  2. Buy yourself that expensive black dress.
  3. Order a cute cake and celebrate with your family and pets.

Q4. You are feeling too stressed out of late. You will:

  1. Talk to your parents and seek guidance.
  2. Seek therapy.
  3. Start with meditation and yoga to manage stress levels.

Wrapping Up!

Loving yourself is the best thing you can ever do to yourself. And for that, you need to know the different self-love languages. They work miraculously well for me and my friends. I am sure they will work for you as well.

Also, this quick quiz will give you a better idea of how to embrace self-love in day-to-day life. Winding up today with this beautiful quote by Beau Taplin. I came across it in my teenage, and it has stayed with me since then.

“Self-love is an ocean, and your heart is a vessel. Make it full, and any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you must come first.”

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